The other day we went to Rob's doctor to discuss his decision regarding his prostate cancer diagnosis. Rob has chosen not to go ahead with treatment. I told him I would support whatever choice he made.
However, the doctor seems to be pressuring him into the surgery, finally agreeing to do more bloodwork in October to see how it's progressing, but that he would not let him wait too long for the surgery.
This doctor is not yet aware of Rob's cognitive decline diagnosis, and I didn't feel it was my place to tell, at least until we complete the further testing. Rob is resistant to telling anyone.
Also, we had the Alzheimer's Society lady here yesterday to meet and speak with Rob. It went fairly well, but every time she said the word "Dementia", I cringed. I don't think Rob has accepted that diagnosis - he sees a difference between that and cognitive decline.
When she started to talk to him about his appointment at the memory clinic next week, he had no memory of it, and got upset with me when I tried to remind him. He was sure that his only appointment was the follow-up in 2023.
But that changed after his driving incident and being told not to drive until he had further testing.
I reminded him that was why he was off work for a month, so we could get the further testing, and he seemed to remember and calm down.
He talked a lot about how his identity was tied to his job, and who would he be if he could no longer work. (He is only 62, so not retirement age yet)
I was worried that the memory clinic was just going to do the same test they did a few months ago, but the Alz. lady said they would do more extensive tests, so that's good.
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