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No, he is not getting his license back

 So, doctor #3 has now told my husband he will not pass a functional driving test. (He lost his license July 25th)

We went to our family doctor yesterday, and Rob brought up about getting his license back at least 5 times. Finally, the doctor said, "you need to give up on the idea of getting your license back."

It doesn't help that his family and friends keep encouraging him to take the test to see if he can pass.

It's frustrating that his family and friends keep talking to him getting his license back

That's not going to happen, makes me feel like I'm the only one that understands what's going on.

The worst is he believes them and thinks this is going to get better.

But once he was diagnosed with dementia, if he were to get into an accident, even if it wasn't his fault, he would be blamed, and we could lose everything.

Or he could kill someone, because he confused the gas for the brake.

Makes me feel so alone in this...

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