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Paperwork delayed!

 Trying to feel less stressed about Rob not telling me about the paperwork he received that had to be submitted by Aug 29th, the doctor being away till Sept 6th when I finally found out about the paperwork and got it filled out - to having his insurance cancelling his short-term disability due to lack of paperwork, and his job expecting him back on Aug 29th and wondering why he didn't show up.

About his driver's license being suspended which means he cannot work, since he drives for a living.

He forgot he had an appointment with his family doctor, never mentioned it to me, and so he missed it.

It's all straightened out finally, short-term disability has been renewed - and even more paperwork I need to fill out and submit - so not feeling less stressed yet.

Oh, and he finally told his family about his dementia diagnosis and prostate cancer diagnosis, and now his family wants me to drive him 3 hours away so they can see him. His dad is fighting colon cancer and mom is recovering from several strokes, so expecting them to drive here is unfair.

But the idea of being in the car with his backseat driving, and criticism, and my little dog who barks the whole time... I might end up putting them both out to the side of the road!!

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