Skip to main content

Sneaking out to the casino

Rob's last day of work was July 25th - just 3 months ago.

Now I find he is getting antsy and wants to go out without me. I have offered to drive him, but lately he wants to go on his own.

Now I found out why... he has snuck off to the casino twice. He told me he wanted to ride the bus and chat with his work buddies. But I have the Life360 app on his phone and can see where he went.

In the 20+ years I have known him, he probably has gone to the casino half a dozen times. Now he has gone twice in one week.

I have checked his bank account and he took out $70 so far. But it worries me. If he really needs to go, I am willing to drive him there, and sit next to him (I do not gamble and never will), but I do not trust him to go alone.

I cannot prevent him from leaving the house at this point.

He is probably stage 3-4? He has Frontotempomoral dementia, so poor executive function, and decision making.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Conversations with Rob

 Rob:  Where's the relish?? Did you forget to buy some? Me: Yes, I bought a bottle, is it not in the fridge? Rob: No, I looked and it's not! Me: Not in the pantry? Rob: No, it's not there! Me: Well, I am sure I bought one. Soon the whole family is hunting everywhere for the relish. So strange, where could it have gone?? Well, I found the relish. It was on the counter, right next to his hotdogs - where HE put it, right before sending us all hunting for the relish!
Post a Comment
Read more

All About Rob

  You asked me to let you know what you need to watch for with Rob. I really do not like to talk about him, when he is listening. He gets upset, and then I have to deal with his anger. I prefer to keep him happy as much as possible, That can be a full-time job in itself. Since he will be in a familiar place, he will probably be just fine. Changes in his routine can get him agitated, but most of the time he is pretty good. Most of the time he is quite jolly, can be the "life of the party", which is not who he used to be! LOL If he does get agitated, he might simply refuse to talk to anyone. I have learned to ignore him when he gets like that, and he usually gets over it. Other times, he has suddenly stormed out of the house and taken off. Fortunately I have a Life360 app on my phone, that I can track him, and know where he is. I usually just let him come home when he is ready. Sometimes, if he gets frustrated about being unable to figure out how to do something he used to be a...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Driving Incident

  Dealing with the guilt, even though I know I did the right thing. On Friday, I sent an email to the memory clinic and reported Rob's driving incident. Today our family doctor called and said the memory clinic sent my email on to him, and the clinic wants to do more testing right away. That's a good thing. But then he asked if Rob knew I had sent the email. Had I discussed the incident with him? (I tried but got nowhere). How was he going to react? (He has been getting violent when he gets frustrated lately) They are likely going to take away Rob's driver's license, which means he may lose his job - and it feels like it's all my fault. I had been up all night long terribly sick when the doctor called and wasn't so coherent myself. But you have to perk up, make sense, remember details, and make arrangements, no matter how you feel. I feel like I am sneaking around behind Rob's back, and I want to go hide in a hole and not deal with any of this. — feeling ov...
Post a Comment
Read more