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Trying to make good decisions

 How do you do this when you don't know?? I am trying to help him make good financial decisions, but I feel lost.

I figured we had to let his work know he wasn't coming back. He is two years from retirement age, and number one in seniority.

So, we went in and asked about next steps. I asked if he should retire and they said no, to stay on his long-term benefits.

Later his union rep called me, furious!! Did he retire? No, I said, we just asked about it.

"Well, the company says he has retired and now he loses all of his severance pay, and his Long-Term benefits!!?"

I have never been in a union; I don't know anything about this! All I knew was when I lost a job, I would get nothing.

His union rep said he would get this fixed, I told him we never signed anything, just talked about what if's.

But I feel terrible, that it's all my fault, but I didn't know, and Rob never said anything about it to me.

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