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Notes I have kept over the past year.

 One or two of these things might mean nothing, it is the daily, on-going things that added up to a problem that we needed to get checked out.

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December 25, 2021 - Rob was convinced that the white powder he found next to the cutting board was poison. It was just powdered coffee creamer.

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January 8th/22 - Rob accused my son, Josh, of taking his jeans form the laundry. The jeans were in the pile of laundry Rob had just folded.

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Rob tried to tell me his birthday was not February 21st. 

That it was probably sometime in January.

But he didn't know when, only his mother knew, and she wasn't telling.

He said his birth certificate only shows the day it was registered, and that could be up to 6 months after his birth.

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June 19th - Using the wrong words in a sentence:

Screen for blanket

Cover for roof

Quebec for China

Return for requisition form.

(I haven't had time to write them all down)

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Inappropriate language:

Disgusting swearing in front of one of my clients, about people coming into his yard and complaining about how it looks. (no one has)

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Gave me a long-detailed explanation as to why we no longer had a Leon's card, after we went to the store to buy a new dryer. I had the card in my hand, but it had expired.

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One day he told me he paid $800 to get some trees cut down. Then he was talking to his dad and said $1,500.

When he got off the phone, I asked, and he said $1,300. When I questioned him again, he got angry and said he obviously knows nothing.

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He got angry at us because I told him not to lift the dryer and stormed off. 

It was not needed for what we were doing, and he had just had a prostate biopsy, and wasn't supposed to do any heavy lifting.

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Could not remember the pin code on the credit card he uses all the time.

He got my online Enbridge account canceled because he kept forgetting the password, putting in the wrong one 3 times, locking the account, and I would have to calling to get a new one. 

Finally, they just shut down my account.

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He struggled with one of my baby gates for the dogs, and when he couldn't get it back in place, he smashed it to bits!

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I found him standing staring for a long time at the row of three light switches.

He said he was trying to figure out how to turn on the light.

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July 24th - found him collapsed in the shower, unable to speak clearly.

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July 31 - quick to anger for simple things. 

I dropped something, and he moved a chair so he could reach down to get it for me. 

When he couldn't figure out how to get the chair back in place, he threw the lawn chair across the yard

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I was pointing out a light above our back door that needed replacing. 

He could not remember ever seeing it before, asked how we turned it on because he could not figure out how. 

We have lived here 22 years, and he has changed that light many times.

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Asked again (4th time!) if there was no way to fasten the gate to keep the dogs in. 

Months later he asked why we had a lock on that gate, he couldn't remember why we put on the latch.

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He can't figure out how to turn off the box fan we have had for years, so he just unplugs it.

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July 15 - Insisted his friend Tim had called and was coming to pick up some kindling wood on Thursday at 10 AM.

I reminded him Tim said Friday at 10 AM

He said no, Tim called and changed because he wanted to get away for the weekend early.

Tim showed up at 10 Am on Friday and had not called Rob to change plans.

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July 19 - could not remember family doctor's name that we have had for years.

 He thought it started with an F. 

His name is Dr. Thow.

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Wondered many times if his sister would do his taxes. 

He had already paid her, sent her his tax info and she does them every year.

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July 22 - woke me up to say he had left a note on my desk. 

Hunted all over for it - it was on his desk.

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July 22 - He keeps wondering if he needs to update his work about his cancer diagnosis. 

But when I say isn't it important to mention his cognitive decline, he says they don't need to know that.

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July 29 - told me that he found mowing the lawn not as exhausting as driving the bus. 

He normally comes in dripping wet and exhausted from mowing the grass.

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We were driving to the garden center - and there was a slow down due to construction. 

We got caught in the intersection.

Rob started with road rage, swearing and then a car honked, and he started screaming, and swearing out the passenger window.

I have never seen him act like that before.

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I turned on the oven to heat up while I went to pick up the grocery order - I hadn't put anything in the oven yet.

Rob was asleep when I left. When the oven beeped to say it was warmed up, he woke up.

So he goes to Josh, my son, to say he didn't know if I had put a pizza in the oven, and he didn't know if it was done. 

He needed Josh to check for him, he didn't know how to open the oven door to look.

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Aug 19 - Rob asked how to start the washing machine. 

He has used it many times in the past.



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