When do you decide about starting meds?

When my husband was diagnosed with FTD, the dr offered meds for memory and for behavioral. My husband declined, and I agreed.

We rarely take meds for anything.

The memory clinic recently asked for a 6 month update, and I sent them a list of how he has been acting. Most of the time he is fine, cooperative, and reasonable.

But he has moments, like yesterday, I didn't turn the corner quick enough for him while driving, so he yelled at me and then refused to talk to me for the rest of the day or do anything for himself.

Another time I wouldn't change lanes when he wanted me to, so he didn't speak to me for the rest of the day, and took off as soon as we got home. Fortunately he only went to McDonalds, and I could track him with the Life360 on my phone.

Or the time I wanted out of the store when it was packed with Christmas shoppers on a Sunday, figuring I could come back during the week when it  was less crowded, he didn't speak to me for 2 days, refused to eat and went to bed early.

I have given up trying to jolly him out of it now, I just let him be mad and carry on as usual.

The memory clinic feels he needs to be on meds, and wants me to see a behavioral specialist. I had figured that wouldn't be necessary unless he got violent.

Then the more I thought about it, I realized it might be good to have on hand, because it could change suddenly.

On the other hand, how would I get him to take the meds?? How do I get him to agree to let the dr prescribe them?

 He is still insistent that he will take no meds. And too with-it, to sneak them into him.

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